How To Not Look Like A Frumpy Mommy

Motherhood can be a time where a woman, depending on the age of course, can find herself wanting to rip her hair out. It can be hard to find luxurious styles and other sophisticated looks while you are changing poopy diapers and wiping the puke off of your child’s face. It can be done and you can look just as sophisticated as you sometimes feel.

Personally, I don’t have much time to go shopping. I wish I did, trust me, but I don’t have much time to spend shopping other than Walmart, or Target, which unfortunately have been my go to. It is cheaper and it fits. That has been a key factor for me.

Recently I found Stitch Fix. I cannot rave enough about stitch fix and it fits in perfectly with my everyday style. THEY DO THE SHOPPING FOR ME! I wasn’t sure if it would be a program that I would like to go through because I am weirdly shaped but the one edit that I received so far has been perfect. The pair of shorts was a little bit but surprisingly I liked it that way.

Stitch Fix is a personalized styling service. They do the work for you and get you to try different styles. Personally, I think they nailed my style even though I didn’t know I had a style so I hope that they can keep it up. So, when you sign up for a personal stylist at Stitch Fix you will answer a series of questions in their quiz. These questions include choosing selections of outfits you like, what you would like to see in your box, what colors you like, your size/age/weight/height, and there is even a section where you can specifically put in what you want to see in your next fix.

You guys will get to see what’s in my next Stitch Fix edit because I failed to put together a post about my last Stitch Fix (my bad).

Anyways, there are some key style points when it comes to looking like a mommy, other than sweatpants and baggy t-shirts, or better yet these are tips on how to not look like a frumpy mom.


I know that they may be comfy but you are NOT pregnant anymore. Save those maternity clothes for the times that you may be pregnant again. They should not still be circulating around your closed AFTER you are done being pregnant. Ditch these duds.


Everything is better when you have a well fitting bra. If it is getting loose or unsupported this is a time to go out and buy a new bra. Having mommy boobs are hard enough but having a non-supporting bra is just about the worst thing that you can do for yourself.


Mommies know what the uniform usually consists of, a comfy sweater and a good pair of jeans, but it is time to get rid of it. You need to get rid of the clothes that you wear over and over again. It might seem weird to your family is they don’t see an outfit on you when you go out to a particular event. Stop it! You can do this.


This can make or break even the most trendiest of mommies. Having a good pair of jeans, no matter the price, will not only help to make your butt look great but they are convenient to wear on the go with children. A good pair of jeans can be a lifesaver for any mommy.


For those of you who don’t know the three piece rule it is a fashion rule that states you must be wearing three pieces. Okay, so it is not a set in stone rule, but you will notice a big difference. If you are wearing a cute top and jeans you need to add another piece to it. This piece can be a scarf, cardigan, blazer, etc. Get creative while keeping this rule in mind and you will see almost instantaneously results.


Okay, so this is the rule that I find myself often breaking. It is a hard rule to follow especially with kids because you always want to feel comfy while shaping little lives. Remember; Flip flops are for the beach and tennis shoes are for the gym. Remember that.

You don’t have to go crazy with your shoes but some essentials can include a versatile pair of boots (one that looks good with both leggings and skinny jeans), a cute pair of simple flats, and a high heel in a more neutral color. If you don’t go all out with your shoes at least keep these simple shoes in mind for your wardrobe.


Mommy weight happens even to the best of us. We find little packets of fluff popping up after having babies so you should always try to look for good lines. You don’t want to show off some of that puffiness that you might have received when you gave birth to your beautiful child/ren.

Perhaps consider getting some shapewear.


Makeup is great especially when it comes to covering up those dark circles that always make you look tired. I am not saying go all out, unless you want to, but there is a quick five minute routine that I am sure that even you, super mom, can throw together.

First off, take a little you time monthly to get your eyebrows waxed or done (even if you have to do it yourself). Try to keep them tamed because a unibrow screams out frumpy mommy.

Secondly, use a bb cream if you don’t want to go all out with foundation. This is a quick and easy product to spread on for an even skin tone. DO IT! Thirdly, a neutral eye shadow (for blue eyes like me brown works best). It’s a hint of color and it works wonders.

Fourthly, you will want to put on some mascara. Mascara only takes a few seconds to put on but it will not only make your eye pop but give you an almost instant put together look. Lastly, put on some tinted lip balm or even lipstick. Just a tad bit of color and shine does wonders.


This is another extremely hard one for me to follow and this has often been my go to when I had longer hair. I literally had to cut my hair to stop me from trying to put it into a ponytail and yet it still happens (occasionally). If you have long hair try a sock bun or something just as easily similar. Also you can even put in rollers after a shower if you feel ambitious. Add in some heat and hairspray when you are taking them out and voila.

If you have shorter hair try pinning it back with bobby pins, or even adding a cute head scarf.


This is especially true when your kids start to get a bit older. Ditch the diaper bag and find yourself a great bag. If your children are still in diapers then try to find a roomier bag. This will make you feel great while still being a great mother.

Motherhood can be such a hard but awesome time for any mother or mother to be. By keeping some of these rules in mind you too can get out of the frumpy mom stage and into the elegant land of motherhood. I know it can be hard especially to ditch some of the comforts that we have come to know and love.

I hope that you too can escape the land of frumpy motherhood.

XoXo Jessica