This is a blog post that really hits close to home for me. I was worried about CAH’s development lately and I brought it up to Daddy D about my worries about my little son. At a year and a half he is not progressing very much in his development. I was told that was bound to happen to a child that was born earlier than a full term baby but things were looking a little slower than normal.
NRH’s development was off the scale in front of other children her age. She was advanced and she still is. I wasn’t expecting the same thing when it came to my premature son CAH but his development is being really slow.
After I brought up my concerns to Daddy D he confirmed them by telling me that the doctor thinks that he was going to have special needs. To me CAH, even though he is slower with his development, can still communicate a few things. He knows only about three words, mostly mama, at a year and a half. For example, when he’s hungry he will make a clucky noise with his tongue. Not everyone will figure that out about him but I have been around him to know that he clucks when he is hungry. We have tried to boost up his vocabulary but it wasn’t working.
I was doing some research online after my concerns were confirmed and I found an article that may or may not be useful for me. We are not sure of anything yet but he does have a few signs that could coincide with autism. So, even if it is nothing in the future, I am glad that I will have brought this information onto someone else.
Autism is not one specific disorder but it consists of a range of disorders that your child may or may not have. An autism spectrum disorder can affect things in children such as talking, playing, and interacting with others. These symptoms can have a wide variety of each of these symptom can affect a child differently. Some children may be highly affected while others are effected slightly with autistic tendencies.
No matter where your child falls into on the autism spectrum they will all have problems in the three following areas, no matter how severe.
1) Communicating Verbally and non-verbally.
With CAH he knows only roughly three words, on a good day, and is a year and a half. He uses hand signals and even a clucking noise for when he gets hungry. It was little things like this that made me worried about his development. I have done nothing differently with my son as I did with my daughter, who now knows 1-10 in several different languages.
2) Relating To Others & The World Around Them
They have issues relating to facial expressions and how people say things. This can be harder for them to understand. They will do things because they get confused about a situation. This can include hitting, throwing tantrums, and other surprising behaviors that we might not understand.
3) Thinking & Behaving Flexibly
They might like to stick to the things they know. They often work best while being on a schedule. You will notice that they tend to do the same things around the same times. Like a consistent bedtime, consistent time they play with a toy, etc…
-Monitor Your Child’s Development – If it seems slower than normal this can be a cause for concern.
– Take Action If You’re Concerned – There is nothing wrong with getting your child tested if you think they might have a development issue. The only thing that can happen is if your child actually has autism. Then you can help to make their life easier.
-Do Not Accept A Wait And See Approach – This is where I fell into line and I am almost ready to get him tested. It is beyond the normal length of time for even some of the more basic development skills that he has yet to learn. I just wasn’t able to admit it to myself, but it is time.
-Trust Your Instincts – I had my own instincts and I brought them up to Daddy D. I was not able to go with him to Chance’s check up appointment, I was currently working at the time, but he confirmed what the doctor told him. It was a shame that he kept it from me but it is time to go see some extra help.
Always, always, trust you instincts as a parent. I should have trusted mine but Daddy D told me that everything was fine at his doctors appointment until now. I should have kept pushing because I knew my son was acting differently. I knew that he was behind but the only thing I had to compare it to was my daughters advanced development so I didn’t know what to expect. I love my family, my son, and I needed to know that it was okay to be who he was. I needed to find comfort. This will not change how I think about him because he will still be my little boy but it will help me to understand him on a different level.